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Make Friends in Classes

September 30, 2011

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Things will be made MUCH easier for you if you’re either in the same class as someone you know and talk to, or you’re taking the same course. There have been times where I missed class and a friend let me copy their notes and vice versa. It also helps when you’re studying for exams. My friend and I were both in elementary algebra together my freshman year, and even though we weren’t in the same class, we helped each other out studying. It helps to have someone you can rely on so that if you miss class, they can fill you in or you can study together. A bunch of my friends and I were in the same sociology class and before every exam, we split up each chapter and made outlines of them for everyone. It’s a good way to study and it helps to have someone there if you need them.

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Talk About Next Year’s Housing in Advance

September 30, 2011

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So if you’re a freshman, once you make your friends and a month or two goes by, start talking about sophomore housing. What I mean is, try to establish who you’re gonna be living with in advance so by the time it comes to pick (March), you won’t be having problems. I think my friends and I started talking about it in October, maybe even before. It’s good to get a general idea about it, especially if like one of your friends is weeded out of your group. But yeah, it’s honestly never too late to start thinking about that, especially if you and your friends wanna live in the same place, a different place, off-campus, etc. Figure it out in advance and you’ll have less problems when it comes time to pick.

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Be Cautious When Pregaming/Drinking in a Dorm

September 30, 2011

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You’re not supposed to do this at all and I’m not condoning it, but sometimes people have a friend who’s over 21 and they’ll offer to buy you alcohol. You have to careful about it though. I mean, I think the RA’s expect that you will since everyone does, but at the same time, if they actually see it happening, they have every reason to write you up and take action on it. So here are a few tips if you do end up doing it:

1) KEEP YOUR DOOR CLOSED.
2) If someone knocks on your door, ask who it is first, and if they don’t come in and are just hanging in the doorway, move your bottles or cups or whatever you have so it’s not in plain sight.
3) If you need to go to the bathroom and you’re really drunk, be as quiet as possible.
4) Don’t yell in your room or be more loud than you would normally be.
5) Don’t leave your room if you don’t have to. Running around the hallways and making an idiot of yourself makes it fairly obvious that you’re drunk.
6) Don’t bring your cups or anything outside.
7) When you’re done with your handles or whatever, hide them or dispose of them quietly in a black trashbag.

To sum it up: You’ll more than likely have some point where you’re drinking in your dorm, just don’t get caught or make a fool of yourself while doing it.

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Your First Week Might Define Your Whole Year

September 30, 2011

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What I mean by this is, the way you act during your first week of being at Rutgers will really define how your year is generally gonna go. That’s because the people you meet the first few days will most likely be your friends for the rest of the year. Whenever you’re doing something for the first week, whether it be hanging out, going to a party, going to the involvement fair or the convocation ceremony the first day, do it with a bunch of people. The first 3 days literally defined the entire year for me. Even if, like I mentioned before, it means keeping your door open to meet people, do it. So make the extra effort the first week to meet people, befriend people, and hang with people and you’ll be solid for probably the whole year.

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Hooking Up with Friends on Your Floor

September 30, 2011

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As my girl Mila Kunis says about the “friends with benefits” lifestyle, it’s “great in theory, bad in execution”.

The same thing kinda applies when you decide that you think your neighbor is hot and you wanna hook up with them. There were people on my floor who did this and they started going out (actually it was this whole group of friends. They ALL started dating each other, it was kinda weird lol).Some of them are still together, so it’s possible to maintain a relationship, but some aren’t. If you break up, it’s gonna be really, REALLY awkward. People are gonna start taking sides and it’ll be a mess.
Now I’m not saying you shouldn’t do it. You can do whatever the hell you want. It’s your life. I’m just saying that if, hypothetically, something goes wrong, it’s gonna have a lot more negative consequences than positive. Just before you do it, think about how it’ll be when you see them every day for the whole school year.

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Tips for Living with a Roommate

September 30, 2011

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This is very important. One of the MOST important things in my book. If you and your roommate don’t have a mutual understanding of how you go about your life, then it just ain’t gonna work out. My roommate and I never had issues with each other because we compromised on stuff. Here are a few things you should know for when you get your roommate:

1) Don’t take their food/drinks unless they say it’s okay, and even if they don’t mind, don’t use eat/drink ALL of what they have. They let you share it, not steal it.

2) If you bring girls/guys back, give them fair warning. A friend of mine walked in on his roommate multiple times while he was in bed with some chick. I’m sure none of you want that, so send a text being like “hey, I need the room if that’s okay” so they have fair warning.

3) If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend and they come to visit, you’re more than likely gonna want the room for the weekend/night, whatever. Make sure that is brought up well in advance, and that your roommate is okay with leaving the room. (and also, make sure you lock the door if you’re doing the deed. You’ll have friends who will just open your door and walk in whenever they want, and no one wants that)

4) If your roommate is studying/busy with schoolwork, leave the room to talk on the phone/talk on the webcam. If you’re listening to music, put your headphones in. It’s distracting and if they did it to you, you’d probably be annoyed. Besides, most of the time they probably don’t wanna hear your full conversation. Mostly, just ask before you do these things and you’ll be fine.

5) If you have earlier classes than them and have to get up earlier, try to be quiet. If you’re making a shitload of noise, your roommate’s gonna wake up and well, that sucks.

6) Don’t be a pig. If you’re messy, whatever. Just make sure your mess is on YOUR side of the room and you don’t have clothes in the middle of the floor.

7) Obviously don’t use any of their stuff without asking unless you both are cool with taking stuff from each other. My roommate and I pretty much were but I’d always ask anyway and vice-versa.

8) If something’s bothering you, don’t be afraid to tell them. Just be nice about it, obviously.

To sum it up: If you respect them, they’ll respect you. If you have issues with your roommate that can’t be resolved, then talk to your RA about getting a room swap. It sucks if you are put in that position, but take care of it early and you’ll be alright.

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Deal With Friend Conflicts ASAP

September 30, 2011

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It’s one thing if you’re in a fight or some kind of conflict with your friend in high school. Unless they’re in your classes, there’s no reason for you to see them. In college, you’re most likely living in the same building as this person, so it makes it ten times harder. The best thing for you to do if you or your friends find yourself in this situation is to call that person into your room, and talk to them one-on-one. In high school, we might be a little less mature about how we deal with our friends, but in college, you learn to be much more mature about dealing with these kinds of things. The only way it’s gonna get resolved is if you talk to them right away and in person. You can only keep things from someone from so long before they somehow get out into the open. So if there’s every a problem, deal with it right away before it gets worse.

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Come to School Open-Minded

September 29, 2011

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So you’re gonna meet so many different types of people at Rutgers. People you’ve never made friends with before. Just come into school with an open mind. You’re gonna meet people of all different religions, all different ethnicities, races, sexual orientations, political views, etc. And hey, secretly you might have never thought you’d be friends with someone who was ____, and they end up being one of your closest friends. That’s one of the cool things about Rutgers. It really is very diverse and you’re gonna meet people who will be totally different from you, and still find commonalities with them. So come in with an open mind and you’ll become friends with people that have the same attitude.

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Go to Learning Centers

September 29, 2011

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I was really stubborn in high school because if I needed help, I wouldn’t go until I definitely needed it. I’m slowly getting out of that habit and quite frankly, it’s really stupid to even have a habit like that. If you need help, get it as soon as possible. Rutgers has what are called learning centers where you can go for tutoring in writing, math, science, or other subjects.**Say, for instance, you wanted tutoring in basic comp or expos, you commit to an 80 minute class a week for five weeks where you get the help for the class. It’s totally free. I can’t vouch for it because I don’t know anyone who did it, but I’m sure it’s very, very helpful if you’re struggling, and I probably could have gone up a letter grade if I did something like that. For the other tutoring in math or science, it’s walk-in, and you’re being tutored by a peer tutor with a smaller group of students. You just go online to see the schedule and you go based on what you can fit into your own schedule. If you can’t go to what they offer, I’d just go to your professor’s office hours or maybe email someone at the learning centers to see if you can work something out.

To sum it up: If you need the help, there are resources, so use them!

**For expos and basic comp, the learning center doesn’t offer the help. Instead, you have to participate in Rutgers’ writing program, which you go to a writing center instead of a learning center. Same difference, technically it’s just a separate type of tutoring.

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What is the Big Chill?

September 29, 2011

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I got a question about the Big Chill at Rutgers and to be honest, I didn’t know much about it either besides that it was for charity. Basically, it’s this 5k run/walk that’s open to Rutgers students/faculty/staff, as well as residents in the area. It doesn’t raise money and there’s no registration fee, but instead when you participate in the race, you bring new toys for area salvation army locations, churches, and the Red Cross to give to New Brunswick children around the holidays. Last year around 8000 toys were donated and over 6000 people participated. It gets more and more popular every year it’s held, and it’s a great thing because it’s a very direct way of making a difference.

http://bigchill.rutgers.edu/Welcome.html
^ the website gives all the facts and has pictures from past races.

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