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Don’t Be Afraid to Say No to Creeps

September 30, 2011

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So… this is something girls will encounter at least once this year at a party. Say you’re dancing with your friends and this kid comes up to you and asks if you if you wanna dance. You might say no and they’ll still be hanging around you. Or you might say YES, and you can’t get away from them. Well, don’t be afraid to say no to them. I was at a party once and this kid wanted to dance with me and he asked me to hook up, and I wouldn’t let him, so he called me a “fucking bitch” and walked away. It happens. Inevitably, you’ll all be at a party and it will happen to you at least once. Don’t feel bad if you say no, and don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t wanna do, because they’ll probably be too drunk to remember it anyway.
And guys… the last thing a girl wants is some guy hanging around behind them just kinda staring and not making a move, so if you wanna dance with her, just ask her.

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Be Cautious When Pregaming/Drinking in a Dorm

September 30, 2011

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You’re not supposed to do this at all and I’m not condoning it, but sometimes people have a friend who’s over 21 and they’ll offer to buy you alcohol. You have to careful about it though. I mean, I think the RA’s expect that you will since everyone does, but at the same time, if they actually see it happening, they have every reason to write you up and take action on it. So here are a few tips if you do end up doing it:

1) KEEP YOUR DOOR CLOSED.
2) If someone knocks on your door, ask who it is first, and if they don’t come in and are just hanging in the doorway, move your bottles or cups or whatever you have so it’s not in plain sight.
3) If you need to go to the bathroom and you’re really drunk, be as quiet as possible.
4) Don’t yell in your room or be more loud than you would normally be.
5) Don’t leave your room if you don’t have to. Running around the hallways and making an idiot of yourself makes it fairly obvious that you’re drunk.
6) Don’t bring your cups or anything outside.
7) When you’re done with your handles or whatever, hide them or dispose of them quietly in a black trashbag.

To sum it up: You’ll more than likely have some point where you’re drinking in your dorm, just don’t get caught or make a fool of yourself while doing it.

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Your First Week Might Define Your Whole Year

September 30, 2011

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What I mean by this is, the way you act during your first week of being at Rutgers will really define how your year is generally gonna go. That’s because the people you meet the first few days will most likely be your friends for the rest of the year. Whenever you’re doing something for the first week, whether it be hanging out, going to a party, going to the involvement fair or the convocation ceremony the first day, do it with a bunch of people. The first 3 days literally defined the entire year for me. Even if, like I mentioned before, it means keeping your door open to meet people, do it. So make the extra effort the first week to meet people, befriend people, and hang with people and you’ll be solid for probably the whole year.

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Don’t walk beyond College Ave alone at night

September 29, 2011

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There are a few scenarios that could be going down where you’d be on College Ave alone:

1) You wanted to take a walk and get out and get fresh air (I’ve done it. You have the freedom to, so you might)
2) You were with a big group of people. They didn’t wanna leave the party, but you did.
…etc.

My best advice: don’t walk alone around that area. Every crime alert we get comes from people walking alone after midnight not ON College Ave, but on the streets beyond it where all the parties are. People get mugged and and some guys have gotten jumped or assaulted. Walking ON campus is one thing, but if you’re gonna go onto the streets behind the student center and around New Brunswick… it’s probably nottttt the best idea. There are super sketchy parts of New Brunswick. You have to be aware of your surroundings, even if you’re with a group and you get out of a party at 2:30 am. So watch yourself when you’re out, and try to not be out alone.

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It’s Okay to Not Drink

September 29, 2011

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There are some people who don’t drink for religious purposes, or simply because they just don’t want to, and you know what? That’s totally cool. Rutgers I’ve found is not the college where you’re gonna walk into a party, not have a cup in your hand, and people are gonna make fun of you for it. It just doesn’t happen, at least not that I’ve seen. If you have asshole friends who try to be funny and pressure you, ignore it. I’ve gone to plenty of parties where I didn’t drink. Like it’s fine, don’t feel like you have to do it to fit in because that’s how college is portrayed. If you do it just because everyone else is doing it, you’re probably just gonna feel more uncomfortable. So if you don’t plan to or find that you don’t like drinking, tell all the haters to leave you alone and do what you want.

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Don’t Expect Too Much/Little

September 23, 2011

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Essentially…

One of my best friends suggested this tip. It’s pretty general and goes for anyone going into a big college, but I thought it was important. In words besides the Brotip, don’t come into college with a bunch of expectations, then you won’t be disappointed if it doesn’t turn out how you expected. I tried not to expect anything and come to Rutgers with an open mind, but what I did expect, a lot of my experience was really different than those expectations— in good ways.Don’t expect to come to Rutgers and think it’s gonna be a big party every single day/night because it’s not like that. On the other hand, don’t expect to come to Rutgers and be working all the time, nonstop, all-nighters every single night, because it’s not like that either. The best way to think about it is to come into your year with a clean slate and take things as they come. You’ll probably be pleasantly surprised for the most part.

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Private Your Facebook

September 23, 2011

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There will come a time where you will have that one person in your group of friends who takes pictures at the party on their phone and uploads them to Facebook. Well, I was that person of my friends, except I check with everyone before I upload my stuff. Lots of people don’t think like that though, so my friends, private your Facebook. Go through your privacy settings and block whoever you don’t want to see those tagged pictures of you grinding with that random guy/girl with a red cup of beer in your hand. Trust me, it’s worth it. And if you haven’t already, change your profile so it’s not 100% visible to people you’re not friends with because you never know when a family member/family friend is gonna see you on there and tell your parents about what they saw. It happens. So before you go to school, lockdown your profile. Then we’ll all be safe and happy.

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How to Buy Clothes for Parties

September 23, 2011

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I think this is something my friends and I knew the first night we went out when we all looked like we were going to a barbecue. So let me break it down by gender.

Alright ladies. This one’s for you. My essentials for a party were black skinny jeans, a pair of black boots, and a few nicer looking shirts, preferably some type of darker color. I’m definitely buying a leather jacket next year (also because I always wanted one lol), and a black pencil-type skirt. I know H&M has them really cheap. You can’t go wrong with that. But don’t go too expensive. I have one shirt from Urban Outfitters that I bought but it’s black and cotton so it wasn’t a pain to wash. Otherwise, I bought from Target and Forever 21. And honestly… unless you can handle the pain, don’t wear heels (even though some of my friends have some hot looking heels that I’m jealous of LOL). Buy boots or flats. You might ruin them and walking drunk in heels to the student center/Scott Hall bus stop would be quite annoying.
**Also, don’t feel pressured to look like a slut unless, well, you want to haha. That’s totally up to you, some girls come to parties looking disgusting with their cleavage hanging out, but some girls pull it off in a classier way. Do what makes you feel comfortable.

Boys, you have it easier lol. I’ve seen lots and LOTS of plaid button-downs at parties. You can’t really go wrong with that. Some guys wear black t-shirts or some type of polo shirt. My neighbor had 2 party shirts, both were black and both were from Express lol. His “essentials”. All of them wear jeans.

THIS IS IMPORTANT FOR EVERYONE: do NOT buy expensive clothes for these parties. What I mean is like, don’t wear your expensive Urban Outfitters or White House Black Market dress that you wore to a wedding or something to a party, or guys don’t wear your white express polo. You will get beer and jungle juice spilled on you because people are clumsy and commit tragic party fouls every minute. So save yourself the trouble and the multiple washing and wear less expensive stuff.

To sum it up: Ladies: go cheap but classy. Fellas: don’t look like you just came back from the gym.

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Don’t Freak Out if the Cops Shut a Party Down

September 1, 2011

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My best friend goes to a smaller school and she went to her first party there in January because she’s a commuter (I was also there). The cops came and she was like “omfg are we gonna get in trouble, etc etc”. Don’t do that, hah.

Parties you’re at will get shut down. They’ll get shut down before you even get in the house. A small tip: It happens. It’s no big deal. When the cops shut the party down, drop your drink (most important) and leave quietly. The last thing you want is your drunk friend yelling or laughing like a fool while you’re leaving the house and passing cops. Keep a low profile and it won’t be a problem. They know there are underaged drinkers, but don’t draw attention to yourself. At least we’re more fortunate I suppose. One of my close friends goes to school in PA and she’s literally run from cops.

To sum it up: cops will shut parties down. It’s okay. Just leave quietly when they do.

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Drinking and Partying at Rutgers: what you need to know from a first-hand basis

September 1, 2011

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Now. This is probably what a lot of people have on their minds when coming into college. They’re all “oh yeahhhhhhhh gonna get MAD WASTED EVERY WEEKEND AT SCHOOL!@#!” If that’s you, well… to each his own. But if you’ve never been to a party/college party before. Here are a few tips you’ll be happy you knew after moving in.

1. Know your limit 
Let’s be honest. Most people either don’t know their limit, or know it and choose to ignore it. And if you do know it, I commend you and wanna be your friend. Knowing how much alcohol you can drink before you’re completely gone is really important. You don’t wanna be that one guy/girl at the frat party who had like 10 cups of jungle juice (a drink that combines vodka mostly and fruit punch/kool-aid) in a half hour, and then you end up throwing your guts up all over their house. It’s embarrassing, a pain for everyone there, and people will remember your face. Trust me. If you can, establish how much you can drink before you go to your first party, then you’re prepared by the time you get to school. I understand that we all have friends who have never partied before college, and I’m sure some of you fall into this category, yourselves. So if that’s the case, don’t get/let your friends get hammered at a house/frat party. Save it for if and when you and your friends are drinking in someone’s dorm or privately, because it’s inevitable that you’ll know people who will know someone they can buy alcohol off of and they’ll keep it in their dorm rooms. I knew a lot of people like this. So gradually get used to it and get a feel for what you can or can’t handle. You find out quickly.

2. The ratio
I never knew what the hell this was before coming to Rutgers, and because RU is such a big school, it’s pretty much at most parties. A ratio is an amount of guys and girls you have in your group. EX: Say a frat party has a 5 to 1 ratio. That means for every 5 girls you have in your group, there can be 1 guy with you. If there’s 10 girls, you can only have 2 guys, and so on. It’s sexist, I know, but the frats want their chicks. The more chicks, the more girls there are for the guys to flirt, dance, and mess around with. Usually at house parties they only charge the guys 5 bucks. They never charge girls though, always free. The smaller the ratio, the better chance you have of getting into a party. They check at the door so make sure you have your people. As much as it sucks, if you have a bunch of guy friends, make sure you have double the amount of girls. If not, you’re stuck at a house party, and the frats are always better.

3. Beer before liquor, you’ve never been sicker. Liquor before beer, you’re in the clear
Self-explanatory.

4. Be prepared to be sandwiched on buses going to College Ave. 
In case you didn’t know, all of the parties are on College Ave. Well… OFF of college ave. So on Fridays and Saturdays between the hours of 10-11:30, the buses going there will be insanely crowded. There are also less buses that run that time of night so, the less buses, the more people there’ll be ON the buses. So if you’re going to a party that starts at 12, leave earlier and hang out in the student center for a bit before you walk over. Rutgers buses are quite the experience though. Drunk people singing, yelling, and dancing, and you’ll hear the RU RAH RAH chant every so often.

5. DON’T PARTY ALONE. 
No matter what you do, don’t go to a party on College Ave without a group. I’ve had experiences where our friends have been drunk and haven’t wanted to leave, but we trusted them enough to get back to the dorm without us. It worked before but it’s honestly better if you all come together and leave together. It’s safer that way, anyway.

To sum it up: know your limit and don’t get smashed at a party, know what a ratio is and don’t be surprised when the parties want them, know how to drink alcohol, be prepared to endure the buses to the parties, and don’t go alone.

**btw, this is an important topic, I know, so if anyone has any questions about it, don’t be afraid to ask me.

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