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You Don’t Have to Join Clubs with Friends

September 30, 2011

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So you know how in high school, sometimes you felt a little awkward going to clubs that your friends didn’t wanna join and you didn’t talk to anyone else in them? Well don’t feel like that at Rutgers. All of your friends are more than likely gonna have different interests than you, so you might be alone in what clubs and organizations you wanna join, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Joining things like that is a good way to branch out from your other friends because you meet other people with similar interests, in turn making even more friends. You have every opportunity in the world at Rutgers, and so many different activities and groups to choose from that not EVERYONE is gonna be into the same things. Your job is to get involved with whatever the hell YOU wanna do, not what your friends wanna do collectively, even though it would be pretty cool if they had the same interests and wanted to join things with you. So do what you want, join what you want, and don’t rely on what your friends wanna do.

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Talk About Next Year’s Housing in Advance

September 30, 2011

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So if you’re a freshman, once you make your friends and a month or two goes by, start talking about sophomore housing. What I mean is, try to establish who you’re gonna be living with in advance so by the time it comes to pick (March), you won’t be having problems. I think my friends and I started talking about it in October, maybe even before. It’s good to get a general idea about it, especially if like one of your friends is weeded out of your group. But yeah, it’s honestly never too late to start thinking about that, especially if you and your friends wanna live in the same place, a different place, off-campus, etc. Figure it out in advance and you’ll have less problems when it comes time to pick.

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Be Cautious When Pregaming/Drinking in a Dorm

September 30, 2011

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You’re not supposed to do this at all and I’m not condoning it, but sometimes people have a friend who’s over 21 and they’ll offer to buy you alcohol. You have to careful about it though. I mean, I think the RA’s expect that you will since everyone does, but at the same time, if they actually see it happening, they have every reason to write you up and take action on it. So here are a few tips if you do end up doing it:

1) KEEP YOUR DOOR CLOSED.
2) If someone knocks on your door, ask who it is first, and if they don’t come in and are just hanging in the doorway, move your bottles or cups or whatever you have so it’s not in plain sight.
3) If you need to go to the bathroom and you’re really drunk, be as quiet as possible.
4) Don’t yell in your room or be more loud than you would normally be.
5) Don’t leave your room if you don’t have to. Running around the hallways and making an idiot of yourself makes it fairly obvious that you’re drunk.
6) Don’t bring your cups or anything outside.
7) When you’re done with your handles or whatever, hide them or dispose of them quietly in a black trashbag.

To sum it up: You’ll more than likely have some point where you’re drinking in your dorm, just don’t get caught or make a fool of yourself while doing it.

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Your First Week Might Define Your Whole Year

September 30, 2011

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What I mean by this is, the way you act during your first week of being at Rutgers will really define how your year is generally gonna go. That’s because the people you meet the first few days will most likely be your friends for the rest of the year. Whenever you’re doing something for the first week, whether it be hanging out, going to a party, going to the involvement fair or the convocation ceremony the first day, do it with a bunch of people. The first 3 days literally defined the entire year for me. Even if, like I mentioned before, it means keeping your door open to meet people, do it. So make the extra effort the first week to meet people, befriend people, and hang with people and you’ll be solid for probably the whole year.

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What is the Douglass Residential College?

September 30, 2011

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Ladies, if you’re considering enrolling in it, read this post. One of my friends from high school who’s gonna be a freshmen asked me about it and I figured if she had questions, a bunch of others probably do, too.

What is it?
So, the DRC is like a section of Rutgers open to all undergraduate women who wanna be part of it. It’s like a community of women that guide you in the right direction as to what you wanna do in the future and give you a bunch of resources and opportunities for networking when you graduate. You’re part of this section of Rutgers, you take a couple courses on women’s history and things like that (which fulfill the diversity requirement for the school), and you get involved in clubs and things like that within the residential college.

What are the benefits?
You’re automatically eligible for a bunch of scholarships. You get a mentor and extra advising which is awesome because it’s someone you can go to one-on-one when you need her. They have something called an “externship”, which is like an internship in the sense that you’re assigned to an alumni who’s working in the field that you wanna go into after graduation for like 2 weeks. It’s neat because you can make lots of networking connections and it might help you out a LOT when you graduate and are looking for a job. 

Dorming arrangements
So freshmen year you’re living in these dorm on Douglass called Katzenbach and New Gibbons. Katzenbach is an all-girls dorm and you’re living with an RA and a peer mentor, I think. I don’t know what the DRC’s section of Gibbons is like but I’d imagine it’d be kinda the same. After your freshmen year or if you’re a transfer, you’d live in Jameson or Woodbury Hall, or the Henderson Apartments, all on Douglass. The Bunting-Cobb residence hall is like a special-interest dorm (for math, science, engineering, etc).

Is all of Douglass the DRC?
No. And I think people get confused by this. If you’re assigned to Douglass, that’s different than being enrolled in the residential college. All of Douglass is not all girls. And Cook/Douglass is still the same campusThere are co-ed dorms on Douglass (Lippincott, other parts of New Gibbons), so not all of them are girls’ dorms. The DRC just happens to be ON Douglass, but it’s not all of the campus.

To sum it up: It’s a cool opportunity, so check it out if you’re interested. One of my friends is in it and she loves it.

http://douglass.rutgers.edu/

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Hooking Up with Friends on Your Floor

September 30, 2011

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As my girl Mila Kunis says about the “friends with benefits” lifestyle, it’s “great in theory, bad in execution”.

The same thing kinda applies when you decide that you think your neighbor is hot and you wanna hook up with them. There were people on my floor who did this and they started going out (actually it was this whole group of friends. They ALL started dating each other, it was kinda weird lol).Some of them are still together, so it’s possible to maintain a relationship, but some aren’t. If you break up, it’s gonna be really, REALLY awkward. People are gonna start taking sides and it’ll be a mess.
Now I’m not saying you shouldn’t do it. You can do whatever the hell you want. It’s your life. I’m just saying that if, hypothetically, something goes wrong, it’s gonna have a lot more negative consequences than positive. Just before you do it, think about how it’ll be when you see them every day for the whole school year.

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Tips for Living with a Roommate

September 30, 2011

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This is very important. One of the MOST important things in my book. If you and your roommate don’t have a mutual understanding of how you go about your life, then it just ain’t gonna work out. My roommate and I never had issues with each other because we compromised on stuff. Here are a few things you should know for when you get your roommate:

1) Don’t take their food/drinks unless they say it’s okay, and even if they don’t mind, don’t use eat/drink ALL of what they have. They let you share it, not steal it.

2) If you bring girls/guys back, give them fair warning. A friend of mine walked in on his roommate multiple times while he was in bed with some chick. I’m sure none of you want that, so send a text being like “hey, I need the room if that’s okay” so they have fair warning.

3) If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend and they come to visit, you’re more than likely gonna want the room for the weekend/night, whatever. Make sure that is brought up well in advance, and that your roommate is okay with leaving the room. (and also, make sure you lock the door if you’re doing the deed. You’ll have friends who will just open your door and walk in whenever they want, and no one wants that)

4) If your roommate is studying/busy with schoolwork, leave the room to talk on the phone/talk on the webcam. If you’re listening to music, put your headphones in. It’s distracting and if they did it to you, you’d probably be annoyed. Besides, most of the time they probably don’t wanna hear your full conversation. Mostly, just ask before you do these things and you’ll be fine.

5) If you have earlier classes than them and have to get up earlier, try to be quiet. If you’re making a shitload of noise, your roommate’s gonna wake up and well, that sucks.

6) Don’t be a pig. If you’re messy, whatever. Just make sure your mess is on YOUR side of the room and you don’t have clothes in the middle of the floor.

7) Obviously don’t use any of their stuff without asking unless you both are cool with taking stuff from each other. My roommate and I pretty much were but I’d always ask anyway and vice-versa.

8) If something’s bothering you, don’t be afraid to tell them. Just be nice about it, obviously.

To sum it up: If you respect them, they’ll respect you. If you have issues with your roommate that can’t be resolved, then talk to your RA about getting a room swap. It sucks if you are put in that position, but take care of it early and you’ll be alright.

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Deal With Friend Conflicts ASAP

September 30, 2011

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It’s one thing if you’re in a fight or some kind of conflict with your friend in high school. Unless they’re in your classes, there’s no reason for you to see them. In college, you’re most likely living in the same building as this person, so it makes it ten times harder. The best thing for you to do if you or your friends find yourself in this situation is to call that person into your room, and talk to them one-on-one. In high school, we might be a little less mature about how we deal with our friends, but in college, you learn to be much more mature about dealing with these kinds of things. The only way it’s gonna get resolved is if you talk to them right away and in person. You can only keep things from someone from so long before they somehow get out into the open. So if there’s every a problem, deal with it right away before it gets worse.

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Stop Talking About High School

September 29, 2011

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One of the most annoying things to me is that you’re gonna have that one friend inyour group of friends who always, ALWAYS talks about his/her teachers in high schools, their AP exams, how they were voted whatever superlative. And hey, that’s great. Good for you, now do you want an award? Like seriously… if you’re all having conversations about your high school experience that’s totally differentThat’s fine. I liked hearing what most of my friends had to say about high school because a lot of us had similar experiences, and also because they didn’t talk about it ALL THE TIME. So just make sure you realize that high school is over. You will be talking about it at the beginning of the year because it’s only natural. You’re all getting to know each other and once you start having those intense, deep conversations with everyone, high school experiences will inevitably come up. Just do yourself and everyone else a favor and like… stop talking about it excessively after 2nd semester starts.

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Play Sports With Your Friends

September 29, 2011

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One of the best memories I have from the whole year was when my friends and I played barefoot soccer on the field next to the Cook/Douglass rec center. It was a sweet bonding experience, even though one of my friends got knocked in the head (and was fine lol). Good times… and then we went to the pool in the rec center the next weekend. It’s experiences like that that you do the first few days that bond you with your new friends. My friends and I weren’t even really competitive about it so it wasn’t like we were playing to win with competitive douchebags lol. My advice is to do spontaneous things like this the first few days after move-in. It’s super fun and it’s a cool way to get to know your friends.

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